The Cost of “No” (and other lost opportunities)

The Cost of “No” (and other lost opportunities)

When I was a kid, my dad used to make me go up to random kids and introduce myself. Not out of nowhere, but if they were playing pool or baseball, I had to endure the ignominy of walking up to them and saying, “Hi, my name’s Tim. Can I play?”

I was always nervous, but it got easier and I didn’t worry too much. I eventually learned what a favor my dad was doing for me, because this helped me become a more secure person, and making friends was fairly easy for me in high school and college.

But as I’ve gotten older, I let laziness get the better of me. All too often I find myself opting for safe and boring. This is a dangerous habit, because this inertia leads many lost opportunities.

This article on Get Rich Slowly sums the problem up perfectly. The author basically claims there many lost opportunities when we play it safe. My favorite part: “We’re afraid we’ll fail, and that makes us conservative,” says Joe Apfelbaum, the CEO and cofounder of Internet marketing company Ajax Union. “We’re afraid we’ll be mocked, laughed at, or that people won’t agree. But ‘safe’ is not where you make money.” [emphasis added]

What are your lost opportunities?

These days when saying “no” is all the rage, it’s interesting hear someone explore the cost of “no” and other lost opportunities.

Are you costing yourself (i.e. relationships, career advancement, skill acquisition, MONEY) by saying no or opting for the easy road? I know I am, and this is something I want to improve.

Photo: Steve Snodgrass

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Tim Murphy is the founder of - the first free web app to help you track school and job applications.

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